How do you pick your friends?

As we grow up, our lives tend to be dominated by schooling. It is such a big part of our social life in America. Most often, we develop “best friends” around the idea that they are the best connection we make within our current group of classmates. Pretty limiting if you ask me, but it tends to come from necessity and the desire to connect. No one wants to sit in a corner alone. You want to have friends to share your experiences with and have fun, right?

It is also a way we organize our lives… Athletics, school clubs, favorite subjects…

Your choices of who you associate with tend to grow as you get older. You have a choice whether you want to “hang out” with a particular person. How do you make this choice? Is it because they have similar interests as you do? Or, do they look at the world in a similar way as you do? Two very different questions, by the way.

Here is another way that you might want to consider. By simply connecting with another person on the basis of whether they are like you… energetically. Are they as outgoing or reserved as you? Do they like or dislike the same things in life as you do?

Parents initially try to teach their kids that you can tell a lot about a person by watching their actions and not what they say. I believe this strongly. Look at how they treat others. Look at  how they act in different situations like when they are upset or the center of attention.

Getting Serious?

As you get older and become interested in a girlfriend and later a wife (or boyfriend/husband for those reading this book other than my sons) it is important to keep this idea of the energy people carry in your mind. So often people match themselves up with other people they find attractive physically only to find out that is all they have in common. Hormones tend to blind us and make us feel we have more in common. As partial proof, at the time of this writing, America holds more than a 50% divorce rate. Wow. Can’t we do better than that as a society?

Get to know the other person. Get to know their perspective on things. Do you share similar perspectives or similar interests? Now look at what type of energy a person holds. I’m not asking how you feel around them. That can be too superficial or can be effected by circumstances.  What I am trying to convey to you in this chapter is that you have the ability within you now to detect other people’s energy and know intuitively what type of energy they send out. This will tell you a lot about the person, what they will attract to themselves over the years (see chapter on Law of Attraction), and ultimately how they will either boost your energy or draw your energy down. (see chapter on Vibrations-energy vampires).

Look for a friend/mate that lifts your energy up. One that raises your vibration. You will know it when you have it. Then you do the same for them. Joy is the result.